The Cost of a Hobby

The expense is no joke!

In my real life, I own a quilting business. I make quilts for people and finish quilts for people. I repair and restore quilts. I also sell a bit of fabric to those that enjoy creating quilts. What likely started as a practical activity designed to use the fabric from items that were no longer wearable and to create a household good to keep a family warm has turned into a billion dollar industry. As much as I try to keep quilting an affordable hobby, for some people, they can’t afford to use new material or my services as a longarm quilter. As much as it hurts my soul, I have to pay bills and employees, and they have to find a way to complete their project that is in their budget.

Thinking about the issue of affordability got me thinking about reading. I read a ton of books. In the past two years, I have read more than 1300 books. This was possible due mostly to a Kindle Unlimited subscription. I also was able to get a Kobo subscription later last year. I get my money’s worth from both. Maintaining my reading hobby at this rate would be unsustainable without them. I would have to slow down – way down. I would be dependent on ebooks from my library, and they mostly seem to have books by major publishers. I would miss books published by small publishers and independent authors.

From a business owner’s perspective, I know that getting people started on quilting and enabling them to keep making quilts is how I make my money. I have loyal clients who make up to 20 or more quilts a year. Reading is much the same. If I wasn’t able to pick up a book when I had a free moment, I would fill those moments with other things.

Yesterday, I saw an ad on social media with a book blurb that I was interested in. The ebook was $12.99! I was fairly stunned. I exited Amazon without even saving the book to my wishlist, and I couldn’t tell you the name of it today. I filled my time with a tour of social media sites, picked at my fingernails for a bit while mulling over a thirteen dollar ebook, and then found another book to read. I realize authors and publishers have to make a profit. They have bills and employees to pay. But man, am I thankful for those authors who have found a way to keep costs down and/or are a part of a subscription service.

Things I Read That Irritate Me

And I wish authors would stop!

There are certain things that I read in books that make me say, “Grrrr!!!!” and makes me feel like writing a long complaint to the author. I *always* refrain. Well, as far as I remember I have always refrained. I think I have just imagined doing it so many times that it is almost like a memory. BTW, that is a real phenomenon – look it up! Memory is a facinating subject and nothing like most of us think.

Back to my irritation list –

Calling the part of a handgun that feeds the rounds into the chamber of the weapon a ‘clip’. It is not a clip. It is a magazine. Like seriously – go look up gun parts! A clip and a magazine are two entirely different things.

The use of the word bemuse. Several authors tend to use bemuse and amuse interchangeably. The primary meaning of bemuse is “puzzle, confuse, bewilder”. If your heroine does something the hero chuckles at, he is not bemused. He is amused. Now I know that some will use the whole ‘language evolves overtime and word usage changes or adds to standard definitions’ argument to say that bemused also now means “wryly amused”, but REALLY??!!! Are we just going to accept that we can just be wrong enough times that our wrong becomes correct? We may as well accept irregardless and intensive purposes since people are always using those if we go by this logic. This makes the whole of my insides clench in frustration and mild fury. I have actually had to put books down and walk away for a bit. I’m a book finisher, so I generally always go back but still. It’s the principle.

Cliffhangers that aren’t identified in the blurb/back matter. Look. I know that there are cliffhanger endings in many contemporary series. But please, for the love of all that is holy, put that it is not a standalone in the blurb. If a book has a cliffhanger, I need to be prepared. The last time I read a book that unexpectedly had a cliffhanger ending, I felt like the author violated my trust. I didn’t pick the next book up. I was so irritated and let down by the book. I require a happy ending and cliffhangers rarely provide that. I need to know in advance that I need the second (and/or third) to find the ending that provides me with the ultimate satisfaction of the HEA. I don’t want to be surprised at 9:30 right before it’s time to sleep.

Is there anything that irritates you? Let me know in the comments!

Dark Romance

Does it romanticize the toxic and harmful?

I am going to say it up front. I love dark romance. Give me your criminal alphas, all your bullies, stalkers, all the codependent relationships, and all of what is typically considered problematic in mainstream romance. There is something about this subgenre of romance that just does it for me.

Not too long ago, Tillie Cole found herself in hot TikTok water over her book “Darkness Embraced”, a dark MC romance featuring a former KKK member as the book’s hero. The TikTok person (who admits to not reading the book and was basing her entire thought process on the back matter) accused her of romanticizing the KKK and said she prayed Tillie Cole’s downfall would be swift. A great hulabaloo ensued. Tillie Cole subsequently posted an apology, removed the entire series from sale, and exited social media.

I have no opinion on this book as I have never read it. I do have lots of thoughts about how all that went down, the review bombing, and the awful rhetoric against Tillie Cole by other authors and readers who had not read the book in question – thoughts that all belong to their own blog post. However, I did start thinking a lot about the subgenre of dark romance in general. I have read some pretty dark books. Some were so dark I asked myself was a reading a romance or a general fiction story about a taboo relationship with graphic sex. Some also made me raise my eyebrows way up into my hairline (are you raising your eyebrows?) and induced a bit of guilt that I was actually reading what I was reading and probably maybe liking it. In others, I found myself hoping the hero got pushed off a cliff and the heroine given a different hero.

My thoughts boiled down to one question – does dark romance romanticize bad people, relationships, topics, and social, moral, and ethical taboos? In other words, does it make these things look better than they really are? And my answer was sometimes – it depends on the book – but does it really matter? From what I have found in reading about the Tillie Cole problem and others’ thoughts about dark romance in general, it appears that many people seem to believe that dark romance is okay as long as it doesn’t cross the lines drawn by any given reader or potential reader. But this idea is not sustainable as authors in the genre can’t ever be expected to please everyone. It really is a matter of – if it triggers you, if you find it offensive, if you don’t want to read about certain themes, characters, or plots – then don’t read it. It is a matter of reciprocal freedom – if I have it, then you have it. We should not ever want to censor what authors should write or what readers should read. That is a slippery slope that leads to all sorts of book-banning nonsense.

Authors and readers alike are human beings with thoughts, feelings, friends, and families. And we have a responsibility to each other. We, as readers, have a responsibility to consume what we want to read and leave others to what they want to read, regardless of how you feel about the content. Authors have a responsibility to write for the audience of their choice and accurately represent the major theme(s) of their book in the blurbs. I don’t know if Tillie Cole romanticized the KKK or if she didn’t. Looking at the blurb, it is probably not something I would have ever read as I likely would have been a bit taken aback by the overall theme. I don’t read historical romance set in the south on plantations due to my not wanting to read books that could potentially have characters I want to like justifying slavery in any way. But I would not have ever – ever – judged this book, its author, or its readers in a public forum without reading it. It is unkind and unnecessary for either the author or the reader to shame or critisize the other over opinions and books that aren’t for them, and certainly no one should be praying for the downfall of the other.

Top Reads of 2023!

After spending an inordinate amount of time figuring out sorting, shelving, and exporting on Goodreads and then Google Sheets, I have compiled (most of) my list of my favorite four and five star reads from 2023! Somehow I ended up with 79 on Goodreads and 44 after I got done sorting in Sheets. I cannot even pretend to know what happened, so I will just say technology -1, Jessica – 0. These are in no particular order because I was super tired of sorting!

Have you read many of these? What did you think?

TitleAuthor
Hans (Alliance, #4)S.J. Tilly
Stone Cold Notes (The Seasons Change)Julia Wolf
P.S. You’re Intolerable (The Harder They Fall, #3)Julia Wolf
Magnus (Viking Surrender #5)Emmanuelle de Maupassant
RUSH: Deluxe EditionEmma Scott
Bed Me, Earl (The Bed Me Books #3)Felicity Niven
No Simple Lie (McQuaid Brothers #3)Samantha Christy
Kilty as Sin (Kilty Pleasures)Caroline Lee
The Glorious Bastard (The Shadows #7)Sadie Bosque
Return to Monte CarloCate C. Wells
The Duke’s Dark Secret (The Astley Chronicles Book 4)Courtney McCaskill
Dom (Alliance, #3)S.J. Tilly
Wicked (Savage Alpha Shifters #3)D.D. Prince
Camera ShyKay Cove
The Devil Gets His Due (The Devils, #4)Elizabeth O’Roark
Forever Your RogueErin Langston
Almost Priest (McCullough Mountain)Lydia Michaels
An Earl to Remember (Unforgettable Love Book 2)Stacy Reid
A Wager with the Gentleman (Necessary Arrangements #6)Sadie Bosque
Viscount of Villainy (Sins and Scoundrels #6)Scarlett Scott
ParentmoonL.B. Dunbar
Havoc Killed Her Alpha (PoisonVerse)Marie Mackay
Portraits, Passion, and Other Pastimes (Art of Love #1)Charlie Lane
Even If It Hurts (Coastal Elite #1)Sam Mariano
The Sea Siren of Broadwater Bottom (The Astley Chronicles Book 3)Courtney McCaskill
Desert Island Duke (Ruthless Rivals, #3.5)Kate Bateman
The Pucking Wrong Number (Pucking Wrong, #1)C.R. Jane
Beauty Dares the Beast (Wagers and Wallflowers #11)Alyssa Clarke
Scandalizing the Scoundrel (Wicked Widows’ League, #9)Charlie Lane
Ache for You (Slow Burn, #3)J.T. Geissinger
The Duke’s Counterfeit Wife (Surprise! Dukes Book 3)Caroline Lee
Burn for You (Slow Burn, #1)J.T. Geissinger
Deceived by the Gargoyles (Monstrous Matches, #2)Lillian Lark
Scoundrel for Sale (Wicked Widows’ League, #8)Courtney McCaskill
Seducing Her Wicked Rogue (The Shadows #6)Sadie Bosque
The Goodbye Governess (Unexpected Lords #4)Scarlett Scott
His Curvy Rejected Mate (Five Packs, #4)Cate C. Wells
The Desire of a Duchess (The Beautiful Barringtons, #7)Kathleen Ayers
Melissa and The Vicar (The Seducers, #1)S.M. LaViolette
How to Tame a Wild Rogue (The Palace of Rogues, #6)Julie Anne Long
One Wedding and an Earl (The Duchess Society, #4)Tracy Sumner
Seducing SimonMaya Banks
Pen PalJ.T. Geissinger